Our Wednesday Wisdom series features nuggets from our experience and research. Each installment is a brief reminder that a fully integrated approach for assisting survivors of traumatic loss involves a balance of head and heart.
Wednesday Wisdom is written and copyrighted by Carolyn V. Coarsey, Ph.D., and distributed by the Family Assistance Education & Research Foundation Inc. Reprinting or sharing Wednesday Wisdom is allowed with written permission from the Foundation.
WW 91 April 1, 2020: A Personal Reflection: A Mother's Friend Shares Her Grief
WW 90 March 4, 2020: Resilience as a Learned Trait: One Survivor's Story
WW 89 February 5, 2020: The Airport Community as One Team
WW 88 January 1, 2020: The Healing Power of Experiences that Don't Make Sense, Logically Part II
WW 87 December 4, 2019: The Healing Power of Experiences that Don't Make Sense, Logically Part 1
WW86 November 6, 2019: The Scientific Explanation of a Well-Known Paranormal Aviation Story
WW85 October 2, 2019: Captain Al Haynes... A Reluctant Hero
WW84 September 4, 2019: The Crash of USAir Flight 427: A Case Study of How Passage of Time May Not Predict Healing
WW83 August 7, 2019: Robert W. Baker... A Conscious Leader Ahead of His Time
WW82 July 3, 2019: An Employee Survivor Looks Back, Twenty Years Following the Crash of AA Flight 1420
WW81 June 5, 2019: A Passenger Survivor Looks Back, Twenty Years Following the Crash of AA Flight 1420
WW80 May 1, 2019: Loved Ones of Victims of Pan Am Flight 103 Mark the Thirtieth Year in a Memorial Celebration
WW79 April 3, 2019: Pulse Nightclub Shooting Survivor Becomes A Flight Attendant as A Way to Help Others
WW78 March 6, 2019: Pulse Nightclub Shooting Survivor: A Case Study in Resilience
WW77 February 6, 2019: Perfect Partnerships
WW76 January 2, 2019: Grieving Employees Need Options Too
WW75 December 19, 2018: Starting the New Year with Purpose
WW74 December 5, 2018: Fight/Flight or Tend and Befriend? Creating A Healing Environment for Crisis Response
WW73 November 21, 2018: Exercising the Human Side of your Station and Port Response Plan
WW72 November 7, 2018: Self-Compassion Includes Forgiving Ourselves and Others
WW71 October 24, 2018: Mindful Self-Compassion: Essential to Training to Care and Special Assistance Team Responders
WW70 October 10, 2018: Lessons Learned from Survivor Speakers, Santiago, Chile, September 2018, Part III
WW69 September 26, 2018: Lessons Learned from Survivor Speakers, Santiago, Chile, September 2018, Part II
WW68 September 12, 2018: Lessons Learned from Survivor Speakers, Santiago, Chile, September 2018, Part I
WW67 August 29, 2018: Listening, Learning and Bearing Witness
WW66 August 15, 2018: Supporting Those Who Wait for Tragic News
WW65 August 1, 2018: Managing Attachment Fatigue and the Separation Phase of a Response
WW64 July 18, 2018: Working with Negative Bias During Early Stage of Crisis
WW63 July 4, 2018: Byron's Legacy
WW62 June 20, 2018: Using Words to Connect, Inform and Track with Survivors Part III
WW61 June 6, 2018: Using Words to Connect and Inform Part II
WW60 May 23, 2018: Using Words to Connect and Inform Part I
WW59 May 9, 2018: The Role of Schema in Survivor Response: From the Aviation Employee's Perspective Part III
WW58 April 25, 2018: The Role of Schema in Survivor Response: From the Cruise Line Employee's Perspective Part II
WW57 April 11, 2018:The Role of Schema in Survivor Response: During and Following Traumatic Experiences Part I
WW56 March 28, 2018: Just World Theory Applied to HSR™ Training
WW55 March 14, 2018: The Crucial Nature of Connections: Aviation and Cruise Line Examples
WW54 February 28, 2018: Shattered Assumptions Part II: The Employee's Perspective
WW53 February 14, 2018 Shattered Assumptions Part I: How an Organization's Response to Trauma Influences the Way Survivors Rebuild their Assumptions about the World
WW52 January 31, 2018: Helping the Helpers not to Harm... The Origins of Human Service Response™, Part II
WW51 January 17, 2018: Calling a Spade a Spade... Or the Importance of Naming a Traumatic Event: The origins of Human Service Response™, Part 1
WW50 January 3, 2018: Intentions Behind the Foundation's Educational Efforts in 2018
WW49 December 20, 2017: Making Music and Following Your Bliss in the New Year
WW48 December 6, 2017: Summer is Comprised of More than One Season
WW47 November 22, 2017: The Foundation Expresses Gratitude to All for Allowing us to Serve
WW46 November 8, 2017: Emotional Bonding is Critical to Transformation from
Trauma: Moving from 'victim' to 'survivor'
WW45 October 25, 2017: Integration of Traumatic Stress Part 2
WW44 October 11, 2017: Integration of Traumatic Stress Part 1
WW43 September 27, 2017: Traumatic Stress Part 2: Not All Survivors Need to Express Emotions
WW42 September 13, 2017: Traumatic Stress Part 1: Environment as a Key Factor in
a Survivor's Recovery
WW41 August 30, 2017: Can Feelings of Gratitude Help Survivors Heal from Trauma? Part II
WW40 August 16,2017: Can Feelings of Gratitude Help Survivors Heal from Trauma? Part I
WW39 August 2, 2017: Recognizing the Many Who Have Helped Family Assistance Evolve
WW38 July 19, 2017: The Importance of Learning from the Real Experts
WW37 July 5, 2017:Don't Let Good Intentions Make Bad News Worse
WW36 June 21, 2017: Telling the Truth as a Form of Empowerment
WW35 June 7, 2017: Where Does Religion Fit Into Support Offered by
Care Team Members?
WW34 May 24, 2016: Death Ends a Life, Not a Relationship
WW33 May 10, 2017: Why Organizations Should "Project the Brand," Not "Protect the Brand"
WW32 April 26, 2017: It Takes a Team to Properly Assist Survivors
WW31 April 12, 2017: Myth 7 - "To ensure a realistic emergency response exercise or practice drill, should role-players be encouraged to show anger and aggression toward
the company responders?"
WW30 March 29, 2017:Myth 6 - "Now that so many State, Federal and Local authorities respond to mass casualty events, does a company really need to send their own employees to assist survivors and families?"
WW29 March 15, 2017: Myth 5 - "Is it True That Parents who Lose Children
Always get Divorced?"
WW28 March 1, 2017: Myth 4 - "Is it True Survivors of Traumatic Loss Should not Make Changes in Their Lives for One Year, or Maybe Two, After the Crisis?"
WW27 February 15, 2017: Myth 3 - "If I assist traumatized people, will I be traumatized too?"
WW26 February 1, 2017: Myth 2 - "Should the person who who provides the initial notification of a person's involvement in a tragedy really be allowed to assist the same family?Wouldn't that be harmful to the family members?"
WW25 January 18, 2017: Lessons Learned Are Part of Honoring Losses
WW24 January 4, 2017: Myth 1: Why Try, Survivors Will Just File a Lawsuit Anyway!
WW23 December 21, 2016: Grief During the Holidays: A Challenging Time for All
WW22 December 7, 2016: Gifts That Cost Nothing...but Time
WW21 November 23, 2016: Expressing Gratitude...Another Form of Service
WW20 November 9, 2016: Teamwork Under Pressure: "Better to talk with someone than about someone."
WW19 October 26, 2018: The I's Have it! The Importance of Ensuring that the Impact of Your Words, Match Your Intention
WW18 October12, 2016: Is It an "Incident", "Accident", "Event" or What?
WW17 September28, 2016: Do No Harm with Your Personal Social Media
WW16 September 14, 2016: The Instinct to Help is Natural, the How is Not
WW15 August 31, 2016: Selecting the Right Person for the Right Role
WW14 August 17, 2016: "Getting Over It" is Never the Goal in Loss
WW13 August 3, 2016: Bereavement Counseling Should not be Offered in Acute Phase Trauma
WW12 July 20, 2016: The word "Closure" is Not a Good Word to Use with Families Whose Loved One has Died
WW11 July 6, 2016: Supporting Employee Responders During and After the Crisis
WW10 June 22,2016: The Orlando Tragedy: Another Reminder to Test Your Plan
WW9 June 8, 2016: Empathy and Compassion, Partners in Supporting Survivors
WW8 May 25, 2016: Forgiveness Comes More Readily with Compassionate Response
WW7 May 11, 2016: The Impact of First Contact
WW6 April 27, 2016: A Time and a Place for Everything
WW5 April 13, 2016: Preparation is Key to Preventing Second Assaults
WW4 March 30, 2016: Embracing a Wide Circle of Compassion
WW3 March 16, 2016: Making Survivors your First Priority
WW2 March 2, 2016: Pre-Crisis Preparation Can Connect Survivors with Survivors
WW1 February 17, 2016: Compassion is at the Center of Helping Survivors